Thursday, December 24, 2009

Is it because I'm selfish?

So Mom's not coming tonight. Or tomorrow. I'm sure it's because I decided that it would be better if we had a quiet Christmas morning, just the 5 of us, before she and other people came over for the afternoon and Christmas dinner and after we are all together tonight for dinner and church.

I thought it was because that would make Ron happy. But now I'm wondering if it's really because then I don't have to stress about whether or not Ron is grumpy and whether or not Mom is feeling slighted because my husband is being anti-social. Which means it's really about me. It's quite possible neither Ron nor Mom feel that way. I'm making assumptions and I'm making decisions designed to make my life easier without completely considering others. Which on a regular day is okay but when it comes to family things and holidays, well, that's selfish behavior.

So, I guess I'd better go apologize to Mom.

1 comment:

Scattered Mom said...

Aw, sorry that there is a bit of family stuff going on. Sometimes, it's best to just let them work it out themselves and leave you out of it. If they can.

I found it hugely stressful when my parents and my hubs would be at odds, and at Christmas I just didn't need it. If you need an ear, feel free to e-mail me any time!

Psst...I don't think you are being selfish. You can't twist yourself in knots trying to make them happy because sometimes, you are damned either way. Do what works for you and the kids, and they will just have to deal with it.